How Honest Should I Be When Applying to Schools?

When applying to schools, many families wonder what to share. Are they allowed to brag, to share quirks about their child, or to add some humor? How much do they reveal? How many paragraphs should they include on their family statement and does it really have to mirror a college application?

Remember, this is a two-way process. Schools want to get to know you and your child, and you are getting to know the school community. The actual application is one part of an applicant’s file (which will be read by admissions committee members), but there are many parts of an application process that reveal how a family might approach their child’s new school. Schools are not simply adding students to classes, they are inviting families into their communities. What you say on your application matters, but don’t forget that the steps in the admission process often reflect how a family shows up in a community. Schools are often looking to see if you are able:

• To start from a place of trust in teachers and administrators

• To communicate with a shared goal in mind (openly, productively, without blame or demand)

• Are open to information sharing - a two way process that can include hearing something about your child that you weren’t expecting or don’t like at first

• Have an understanding that schools hire and retain professionals with experience that care about your child and all of the students

Independent schools are generally non-profits and they function differently than corporations. Many teachers and administrators got into education to make a difference in a child’s life and to help shape them as humans. They know that this is messy, sticky, and heart-filled work. Families who are honest, open, and willing to embrace the idea that we are all on a learning journey - their child and family included - will stand out in the process.